My dad once brought a little stray dog home. She was one of many that my parents and I, from time to time, could not resist and brought home.
This one I am posting about today was a little mixed pup with cream colour fur, and very sweet eyes. We named her Donna. She was crazy for my dad and followed him everywhere. She knew when he was about to arrive home from work, and she would sit at the top of the driveway and wait for him. Five minutes before he would actually drive in. She was a good puppy.
But, I always think of her, when I have to deal with a certain type of people. Donna was good, but she had a type of attitude. She would accept everyone, being friendly and gentle.
To a certain extent.
From time to time, Donna would snap at the hand that was petting her, stroking her and being sweet to her. Just like that. She would snap.
There are people like this, have you noticed?
They snap, out of the blue. When you did not do a thing to them. They just do it. They always have a half way nasty attitude, half way friendly attitude. It's hard to figure them sometimes.
And it is undoubtedly tiring!
If you talk to them, they always have this smart reply that is uncalled for. It sounds uncalled for.
If you tell a story, they rebut it with a criticism. If you ask a question, they look at you as if you were asking whether rain is wet. Sort of "duh", you know how?
If you express a feeling, it becomes comedy. If you have a great care in the world, it is treated as foolish behaviour.
Snap, snap, snap.
With Donna I had all the patience of this world. She was a puppy. She had been through a lot. And we loved her.
With people, I must say, I have a limited load of patience.
A kick on the butt is on the way!
12 comments:
Who are you gonna kick??? Do it really hard! xxx
Yep there are such people everywhere...
And snaping back is not always the best option, so mabye a good kick in the behind is...?
Thanks
Leontien
I think folks get tarnished and bitter and don't even realize how cynical they've become. It becomes so automatic that the behavior takes them over. Honestly, I think they'd have to make a true effort to reverse their negative thoughts - over and over again - until the happy part can be seen and heard once again. I try to remember this all the time. It's a never-ending lesson.
I tend to ignore attention-seeking people like this as much as possible.
I work with someone like this. I try so hard to be nice and bend over backwards to help her but her comments are so caustic I find it hard to carry on trying.
It isn't in my nature to snap back but I'd like to kick her butt somedays too (but she's the boss' best mate.....).
Good luck.
x
Gee, I hope I haven't overstepped my boundaries! I know I have been a little crabby lately. If you want, I will bend over.....
XXX
Oh, I get so tired of people who just can't be nice to each other. I'm all for a judicious, well-placed kick in the butt when all other options have failed. Go for it! (And tell us how it goes!)
People can be hard to deal with, that's for sure. I've learned too, that they can snap out on you for no reason and at any time. I guess the bottom line is, you have to like yourself... and if you like yourself... then when someone snaps out you can walk away knowing that- that those type of persons have to live with themselves and you can be happy in who you are and distance yourself when you can from them.
Another thing - sometimes people are misunderstood.
I've missed you, Mariam. Hope all is going well :)
No bending over, my friend!! You are all precious to me, and I do care lots about you - you hear me, Sharon?
I want to thank you for the laughs, the serious thoughts, and the wise words, which made me think and calm down.
Love ya'll
it's especially hard to deal with when one is a relative. you can try to please them, but you end up dwelling on why you deserved the short end of their stick. ugh.
maybe someone needs to make human muzzles. ;o)
I've known several people like this in my day. Now I just try to let it pass through me - but I'm not always successfull, unfortunately.
A freiend had a real go at me three weeks ago so I've stayed away from her. I know that our other friends will think I'm being hard on her & will sympathise with her because she feels low. I was feeling low too. How have I become the baddie in this ? She had a go at me and really hurt me but I will be the one who is criticised.
Thinking of you & all those terrifying tornadoes.
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